Relationship Matters

I think we can all agree that healthy relationships are the building blocks to a life well lived. And yet, many of our most important relationships; with our spouse, partner, children, parents, siblings, colleagues, and clients are often left wanting. Old wounds fester, our respective nervous systems crash into each other, misunderstanding wreaks havoc… and we feel cheated….

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Why can’t my spouse and I stop the blame game?

Why can’t I seem to talk civilly with my children anymore?

Why do I continue to butt heads with the same colleagues over and over again?

Why am I not as effective working with my clients as I could be?

Why are my friendships rife with conflict and unfulfilling?

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And the beat goes on......Unfortunately, our usual go to strategy when confronted with these struggles is to complain about the other, gripe about their issues and hope/expect them to change. And they don’t. So, nothing changes. And we are stuck.

But there is another important relationship that we tend to ignore. It’s a blind spot for most of us and ignoring it can cause an awful lot of relationship mischief--- it’s our relationship with ourselves. It’s recognizing our own gifts and our own unhealthy patterns of behavior.  It’s acknowledging our own “automatic pilot” strategies for getting through life and how we use these patterns to unconsciously sabotage our own peace of mind and healthy relationships become collateral damage. 

Truth is --- we can only change, grow and evolve ourselves, period.  By setting the wheel of our own self awareness in motion, we show up differently and it invites others to do the same.

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